Who wants to undergo horrendous breakup blues that Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn went through in â€˜The Break-Upâ€™ â€“ do we? Things get worse post breakup when our ex-partner throws ghastly messages over Facebook, Twitter and even vents pent up feelings from their blogs, and not to forget, bombarding some of them to our mobile and e-mail inbox. You may attempt to get rid of your ex by changing Facebook relationship status from â€˜In a relationshipâ€™ to â€˜Singleâ€™. And to counter that, he may retaliate by sending you hideous Tweets and with updates like checking in with a new girl at various places on foursquare. So, has it become more difficult to deal with breakups and exes with the advent of technology?
Donâ€™t lose hope yet and donâ€™t blame on technology; it can also aid you to divert your attention, cope with recent breakup, get rid of your ex and even more important, to eradicate your ex-partner out of your mind. Here are some angles to make use of technology to move on â€“
Write a â€˜Hate Mailâ€™, but donâ€™t send it Â
Writing hate mails and sending to ex is an age-old means of retaliation espoused by jilted lover. But, wouldnâ€™t sending hate mails make you feel even more disgusted and receive even bitter replies from your ex? However, writing letters is a great way to vent your unresolved feelings, anger and frustration. If you do not write letters anymore, type e-mails instead. Alongside composing e-mails, you can use other means of technology to vent boxed up emotions such as, writingÂ your disgustsÂ on a word processor or the notepad application. Now, save to draft, save the document or the notepad content in the remotest folder that you are not likely to come across regularly that you may feel tempted to send him.
Eternal Sunshine lets you vanish from Facebook
We have seen how the flick Eternal Sunshine shows ways to dump the memoirs of the past in a sack and dispose of them in order to vanish romantic souvenirs and forget the ex. If you cannot possibly find a service like that catered to Kate Winslet to fade memories in Eternal Sunshine flick, you can use a technology that gets rid of the past. Eternal Sunshine is Â also a Google Chrome extension that helps hide your ex (and anyone you choose) from every bit of Facebook. The extension hides chosen contactsâ€™ input and presence from news feed, photo albums, photo updates, profile updates, and Facebook Chat etc.
Keep your dignity intact â€“ thwart the revenge plan Â
After he has wronged or has betrayed your faith, are you spending nights and hours by fostering vengeance against him, crying and indulging in self-pity? Shrug off your pities, rather pamper yourself to feel good, feel positive and keep your dignity intact. Make use of technology at hand. For example, redirect your energy to score high on games on your smartphone or on your laptop instead of planning to even the score over him. By feeling happy, you can restore beliefs in relationships and positive attitude and eradicate the loser out of your mind.
Some more tips…
Now, resist chasing him over the Internet and stop stalking him over social networks. Instead of spying on him and people (and girls)Â he is meeting, get a hold of your life and move on with your life, focus on your potential to find a partner. You can also pursue your favorite hobby such as dancing, gardening, music, photography, take a trip etc. to divert the attention. Block his phone number to avoid his SMS and calls and also, block him from your Facebook profile. These could be possible ways Â you can gradually loosen your resentment, dispose of bruised feelings and memories and your ex-partner eventually, using technology. Do you find these tips useful or not? Write to us.